Many people enter relationships for many reasons in order to find the person who they want to be with for long-term and short term relationships. Some relationships may have problems that can easily be fixed while some can’t. If some people are not happy being in a relationship, it is better to walk away than to repair. But ladies, if you have a man and don’t like his behavior, there is a phone app called The Boyfriend Trainer.
The Boyfriend Trainer is an app which focuses on making your boyfriend into the lover the woman wants him to be. In the game, the woman (the player) can physically assault her boyfriend anytime he acts out of line. She can hit him by slapping him or using a weapon like a tennis racket, belt, and other items. If scolding your boyfriend doesn’t work, just use a weapon to put him in line and he will learn to behave better. As of February 4, 2013, the game currently has an average rating of 3.4. The game is for players age four and older. Here is the game description:
No boyfriend is perfect! It’s time you trained him to become one. Crack that whip and teach your guy a thing or two about being the Perfect Boyfriend! When scolding doesn’t work, just zap him, whack him and train him to be your ideal man…… Have fun!
There are many things wrong with this game. First, it encourages women to think its okay to hit men which may increase domestic violence in relationships. Based on the graphics in the game, its looks like a cartoon so people playing the game find it as a source of entertainment and condone the serious issue of violence. According to the Bureau of Justice Statistics Crime Data Brief, it states that 85% of women in relationship were domestically abused. But if violence is wrong and a serious topic in America, why would there be an app for entertainment on hitting men?
Domestic violence against men seems to be a source of entertainment. In many films and television shows, it has become a comedic routine to degrade men by physical and verbal abuse. Many male characters in films and television shows (mainly comedies) are always looked down upon by a statement made by another character in some way, shape, or form questioning his manhood. But women (in most cases) are not depicted in the same way as people may not find it as funny. It may be difficult for people to understand how domestic abuse can be funny on one gender and not the other.
Humans are alike, if you hit someone, they are going to feel pain and react. In October 2012, a woman named Shi’dea Lane, entered a bus in Cleveland, Ohio and did not have money to pay and the bus driver, Artis Hughes, told her to she needs to get off the bus at the next stop then they engaged in a verbal altercation. Then Lane went and hit Hughes while he was driving the bus and Hughes stopped and reacted by hitting her back. The whole situation could have been avoided if Lane did not attack Hughes in the first place. For some reason, people think its okay to hit someone and not expect that person to react which is not possible.
Domestic abuse is a serious problem in our society and it needs to be taken with proper caution. Some people tend to find this phone app The Boyfriend Trainer as a source of entertainment as it degrades men by beating them into doing the right thing by the woman. But if there was a game called Slap This Girl into Obedience, there would be a complete protest and petition to get that game banned and never see the light or day. There is nothing funny or entertaining about domestic violence. But if there are games like this showing women to control their boyfriends, how can many people take domestic abuse as a serious topic.
Politics in the United States has been a controversial topic due to the fact that people have different views. Some people have voiced their opinion on how some leaders are contributing to the problem rather than solving it. Politicians have been questioned over their ethics and behaviors on certain issues involving certain demographics and highly criticized over their foreign policy. The Obama Administration faces scrutiny all the time over their laws and policies affecting society which comes from news analysts, bloggers, and ordinary citizens. Recently, Lupe Fiasco, an American rapper, has received mixed reviews over his comments criticizing Obama and the US Government. He has the right to voice his opinion but where he said it may have been the problem which made people look down on him and not the message he was trying to send.
On January 20, 2013, StartUp RockOn had a celebration for the re-election of President Barack Obama on his second term in office at the Hamilton Live Theater in Washington DC. Lupe Fiasco went on stage and performed an anti-war song title Words I Never Said attacking President Obama. There was a video clip showing Lupe saying some of the lyrics which included, “Limbaugh is a racist, Glenn Beck is a racist, Gaza strip was getting bombed, Obama didn’t say shit, That’s why I ain’t vote for him.” Then some security guards came on and asked the rapper to leave the stage. It looked like the crowd was silent and having mixed feelings over the song. Some people praised Lupe for speaking his mind while some felt it was unnecessary.
If you really wanted to analyze the situation, some people view the actions of Lupe Fiasco as an act of bravery. He spoke out against Obama and how he reacts to politics when it comes to certain situations. Obama has been labelled a terrorist for sending troops overseas for the better interest of the United States which has taken the lives of innocent people. Lupe has a strong fan base who have been giving major praise for his voice speaking out against many political analysts like Rush Limbaugh and Glenn Beck who make foul or improper statement against different minority and ethic groups.
Although he has been praised for his performance, he has also received many backlash for his statements. Some people felt it was very disrespectful for him to make such statements about President Obama. He has no respect for authority for making such statements on an inauguration event dedicated to the re-election of President Obama. He went on stage to perform an anti-war song which he knew the event was in the honor of the President. This is a high level of disrespect. It is by choice to like or dislike President Obama and it is also a choice to perform if you don’t like the event that is being displayed.
After Lupe Fiasco made his statements through his anti-war comments at the inauguration event, can the blame really be placed on him completely? Most cases, yes but in this case, it is partially not his fault. Let’s examine this part thoroughly. Lupe has been making statements against Obama many years before. In June 2011, on a CBS Program called What Happening, Lupe made the following statement about President Obama:
“My fight against terrorism, to me, the biggest terrorist is Obama and the United States of America. I’m trying to fight the terrorism that’s actually causing the other forms of terrorism.”
He made it clear that he does not like President’s Obama and his views on politics and has completely different views on what is being presented in the media. But Lupe had attracted many negative comments when it comes to politics especially during the 2012 Presidential Election between Barack Obama and Mitt Romney when he said he is not going to vote. Actor and comedian DL Hughley made a statement on Hot 973.7/Hartford about Lupe’s decision not to vote by saying, “He’s bright as hell, but dumb in the ways of the world.” DL Hughley is one of many people who don’t agree with his views and actions on politics. Not voting does not help solve the problem and that was part of the point Hughley was trying to make.
After Lupe Fiasco has been making statements about President Obama, the US Government, and making the decision not to vote, who organized the inauguration event that would ask him to perform on stage? It is very clear that Lupe does not agree with the current system of politics and who would decide to ask him to perform? Did they ask him which songs he would perform and songs not to perform? There were speculations that he was thrown off the stage due to his anti-war song while some sources say organizers came and asked him to leave the stage due to the dissatisfaction of the crowd. If people knew his views beforehand, why would he be asked to perform at an inauguration event and why would he agree to do it?
Lupe Fiasco is conscious hip hop artist who has a strong view on politics. It is obvious he wants to enlighten the minds of people in society in hoping that they will be aware and more concerned about politics. But some people feel he is enlightening the minds of people in the wrong way through his actions of not voting and calling the President a terrorist. He has the right to freedom of speech but where he decided to voice his opinion on President Obama was not acceptable. The inauguration event was suppose to celebrate President Obama’s second term in office and he had no right to make anti-war comments that would go against the main point of the event and annoy the supporters of President Obama who attended the event in the process. He has the right to feel and express himself in anyway he chooses but where he did it is the problem. Many fans support him because they are loyal fans. But to some supporters who saw the event, viewed it as disrespectful. Lupe is a well-respected artist but do you think he was right for making an anti-war rant on the inauguration event?
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College (or university) is the higher institution where students go to pursue a four year degree to specialize in a particular career. The university environment is filled with people from different cities and backgrounds all in one area pursuing the same goal which is obtaining a four degree. The university has different departments on campus which students can choose from which usually include Liberal Arts, Mass Communication, Computer Science and Engineering, Music, and Theater Arts. Every degree carries different value depending on the direction and network a person has. As people graduate college, some are very satisfied their with their career choice as they received or obtained a job after graduation while others are quite dissatisfied with massive debt and no job in their career field or underemployment. At times people become so frustrated, they don’t know who to blame for their misinformation concerning their degree choice. People often blame the university because of their lack of guidance for preparing student for the real world. College advisers tell students which class they need to take to graduate with their degree but are they suppose to guide students in their career path?
A college adviser is an adviser who guides students to take certain classes in order for them to graduate with a college degree. These are the people who advise students on certain classes based on their degree requirements that will lead towards their career they decided to pursue. There tends to be a misconception of the job of a college adviser versus the ethics behind their job. Many students feel college advisers are the people who are suppose to make sure they use their full potential to achieve their goals in college. Here are some parts of the job that advisers are suppose to fulfill:
1) Graduation – College advisers are suppose to make sure that every student graduates with a degree of their choice before they leave the school. Each degree has different requirements which are mixed with core courses (courses which are towards their major) and electives (courses which are not towards their major) that is needed to complete the degree requirements.
2) Increase the Number of Graduates – College advisers are suppose to increase the number of graduates in their department. At times, students may struggle with a class or need help to take certain classes and they seek their college adviser to help them solve their problem to pass the class by suggesting certain help groups or tutors to help them to pass the course. They will do anything to help students graduate as soon as possible.
These are some of the main functions of a college adviser. But at times, people may beg to differ as they feel college advisers are suppose to be their moral guide in their career path. Here are some of the moral obligations behind college advisers people feel there should have:
1) Guidance – College advisers tell students which class they need to graduate with but don’t tell them the true value of their degree. It is very frustrating for a person to take advise from someone who knows the value of the job market based on the career path of the student but do not inform on how the market really is at the time. If a student is talking to a college adviser, it is their job or ethical obligation to inform them about their market once they graduate since they trust them will their future while they are in college.
2) Experience – Many college advisers have their Bachelor’s degree and some have their Master’s degree (at least to what I believe). They have already been through college and know the benefit of having certain degrees and which degrees have no real value. So if this is the case, why would they give advise to students on their career if they know that it will not work out in their best interest? This is where ethics comes into the situation. How can they guide someone without giving them the proper advise especially when they have already experienced it? This can really put a damage into someone career and not to trust anyone with their future if the person who is suppose to advise them doesn’t display the correct information that will benefit them at the end.
There is a thin line between job description and ethics. On one hand, college advisers are to suppose to make sure each student graduates from the university. But on the other hand, if they are advising students and have already gone through the college experience, why can’t they give students advise about the true value of their degree and job market they tend to enter?
By the time students realize they made a mistake in their career choice, it may be too late. Some students graduate with a degree that may not help them get a decent job in their career. According to a CNN article, Average Student Loan Debt Nears $27,000, it says that “Two-thirds of the class of 2011 held student loans upon graduation, and the average borrower owed $26,600.” Many people today who graduate with degrees in Computer Science, Engineering, Pre-med, and Pharmacy tend to experience a high employment rate after graduation. While some people with a degree Psychology, Liberal Arts, Sociology, Anthropology, Arts and Humanities, and Social Sciences have low employment rates according to a Forbes article, The 10 Worst College Majors. But there are some people who have a network with friends or family or they become self-employed after college, so their degree has no real benefit for them other than saying, “I graduated college.”
At the end of the day, people can blame their college advisers, family, or themselves but they are the ones still with the problem. Some people are misinformed on about college and their degree they are trying to pursue. College advisers are suppose to help students to graduate but do not tell them about the true meaning behind the job market in the career they are about to enter. It may be lead a person astray which may be hard for them to succeed. After graduation, many people move back home with no job skills, experience underemployment, or go back for a second bachelors or Master’s degree in huge amount of debt. Once you graduate, you are on your own. Should college advisers be held accountable for the advise they give students?
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Films today tend to be very popular for various reasons which some may include: content, significant message, humor, aesthetics, and quotes. These are some of the necessary things that makes a film to be remembered. But there are some additional scenes in films that have no significant value or correlations to the film. Some additional scenes in films are not necessary but there in some cases to attract a bigger market. In most cases, sex scenes (or sex in films or television) are pointless in most films and television shows.
Sex is a very important aspect of life and it is considered a beautiful thing which humans feel or express with their partner. But when it is being seen everywhere in the media, it tends to change the way people feel about it. In the media today, almost every direction we look, sex is everywhere from films and television to magazines and posters. Like the old saying goes, “sex sells” , which is true in most cases. But at times, depending on the product, it can be unnecessary.
Before sex in films became popular, nudity in films started in the early 1900s during the silent film era. The first US film to show nude scenes was Inspiration in 1915 staring Audrey Munson. At this point in history, it was considered controversial because nudity in public was not acceptable. In 1963, actress Jayne Mansfield was the first mainstream actress to appear completely nude in a sex comedy film titled Promises! Promises!. It was banned in some cities in the United States but it was still a commercial success. By the 1960s, films started to show non-pornographic scenes which actors and actresses were considered to have sex but it was not shown, the camera would turn away. One popular film titled Midnight Cowboy had a comedy sex scene which only showed their facial expression. This was just the beginning of sex in films as it tended to grow over the years.
With the growth and nudity in films, there are some benefits in behind sex scenes. One benefit from sex in films was money. Some old sayings are true and never change, “Sex sells” and many film actors and directors capitalized on it. Sex in films tended to make more profit from sex scenes which some people may watch a film for that only reason.
Another benefit for sex scenes is for attention. Sometimes a film may not seem interesting to some people based on the advertising they may have seen. But when a sex scene may be in a film, it may be a reason to attract some viewers into watching the film and may enjoy the film and forget about the sex scene after they watch it.
But in contrast, there are some disadvantages in sex scenes. One disadvantage of sex scenes is that it is a waste of time. Some sex scenes have nothing to do with the film and it tends to make a film longer than it has to be.
Another disadvantage of sex scenes is that it may have no significant value to contribute to the story. Some scenes may be interesting to look at depending on the viewer but at times, a sex scene can take a film in a different direction confusing the viewer.
If we look at history in television, you will see that sex was hardly seen or mentioned by actors. Most of the time, actors and actresses hardly kissed or focused on any kind physical contact to get the audience attention. For example some of the most popular television shows from the 1960s-1990s that did not include sex scenes were The Jeffersons, Fresh Prince of Bel Air, All in the Family, Family Matters, The Steve Harvey Show, Boy meets World, and The King of Queens. These television shows were based on pure comedy. On the other hand, most television shows from 2000s have some sex scenes to draw a larger audience which some include Entourage, Hung, True Blood, The Game, Scandal etc. Sometimes a sex scene can last from one to five minutes depending on the show.
Apart from television, many films today tend to have large amount of sex involved. Some sex scenes in films may occur multiple times varying from three to eight minutes on average per scene. Most films that win awards usually have sex scenes present but that may not be the reason why they actually win an award. For example, the film Monster Ball staring Halle Berry, who is a well-known actress, won many awards for her performance in the film. Although the film has been praised and received many positive reviews, it is still remembered for the sex scene between Halle Berry and Billy Bob Thornton. The scene did not really have much to do with the film except to show their physical attraction for each other. Apart from that film, many films that have been nominated had sex scenes which include The Watchmen, The Lucky One, Twilight, 300, Knocked Up, Forgetting Sarah Marshall etc. Whether some sex encounters in films tend to be real or fake is debatable. Due to the popularity of sex scenes, it has a separate award category depending on the award show.
At the end of the day, people may have different feelings about sex scenes as some may like it and some may not. Everything is based on marketing and sex in films tend to increase the number of sales. I understand that things change as society evolves but some scenes are just not necessary. Before in the early twentieth century, nudity was seen as art to give a film more of a prominent artistic view. But films today tend to have sex scenes to attract more viewers which in most cases has directly nothing to do with the film or television show which makes it longer in length than it has to be. Depending on the person, it may increase or decrease the value of the viewer’s attention in the film.
Do you think sex scenes are pointless in films and television?
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Child support is the financial payment or duty of a parent for a child from a relationship that no longer exist. Parents who have children have a financial obligation to take care of the children’s primary needs until a certain, usually age eighteen, when they can fend for themselves.
Child support started from the end result of the break down of marriages (divorce) when the husband and wife decided to no longer live together. During the nineteenth century, women had a lot of problems supporting the family because their primary job was being a homemaker. Women weren’t allow to work in public places based on cultural practices of America during that time and they were taught that taking care of the home was their primary duty. Most of the time after a divorce, the man would leave the family and woman would have primary custody of the children. Since the man was the primary breadwinner and sole provider of the family, he would become richer while the mother lives in poverty as she has to provides the expenses for her children. This created a division on socio-economic class between men and women. When women had to find a job, they wouldn’t be able to obtain certain jobs based on lack of education and work skills which was primary based at the home. Sometimes when women did obtain certain jobs, they weren’t being paid on the same level as men. This created a problem for single mothers who found it hard to provide for their children.
In the mid-twentieth century, the poverty level of single mothers started to have an effect on society creating a division in the socio-economic class. According to the CATO Institute, the first federal aid program was Aid to Dependent Children (ADC) created by Franklin D. Roosevelt in 1935 to help and provide families with support where the father was deceased, absent, or unable to work. This was suppose to help out single mothers in their financial situations which benefited more than 600,000 families by 1956. The ADC tended to be successful as the number of families receiving support increased from 4.3 million in 1965 to 10 million in 1972. As the years continued, the number of welfare participants continued to increase.
Despite the success of the ADC, child support needed to have its own division. By 1975, Child Support Enforcement was a national program established by Congress where both parents must provide for their child best to their ability. Non-custodial parents were determined to provide financial support for their children regardless of their income status. But as time went on, some people didn’t pay or refuse to pay the child support, so the Deadbeat Parent Punishment Act was established in 1998 which individuals may face federal prosecution. Through these laws, many parents have had their credit score ruined and faced time in jail for non-payment of child support. Since 2000, child support in the United States has been highly criticized for its practices and ethical issues.
Child support is a controversial topic in the United States as people have mixed feeling about it. But before we can make a final decision on child support, we have to examine the pros and cons.
One benefit of child support is financial support for the child. Many times a single parent may not have enough money or resources to provide all the necessary needs of the child. So receiving child support may be used to help provide the basic upkeep for the child needs.
The negative effect of child support is there no record to show how the money is being used by the custodial parent. Sometimes a non-custodial parent may be forced by a court order to pay child support but the custodial parent does not have to show how much they spend each month on the child needs which make people to become skeptical of making payments.
Another negative aspect of child support is non-visitation rights. In some cases, some non-custodial parents may be denied visitation rights despite the fact they are making monthly child support payments which may make a parent decide not to complete payments.
According to a CNN article titled Deadbeat Parent Cost Taxpayers $53 Billion, it states that in 2009, over $100 billion is owed in unpaid child support and nearly half of that to taxpayers supporting their children on public assistance. When custodial parents don’t receive child support payments, they end up receiving public assistance. This cost the government around $53 billion. 82 percent of the custodial parents were women. Child support is an economic burden for the country and most public assistance do not want to be responsible for it.
For example a man named Desmond Hatchett, a Tennessee native, has twenty four children with eleven different women. He has be incarcerated since December 2009 for non-payment of child support. In the state of Tennessee, child support cannot be collected more than 50 percent of a person’s income. In Hatchett’s case, each child receives approximately $1.49 per month which can’t do very much. So the mothers will most likely have to receive public assistance for support.
Another case of child support is from William Marotta, a Kansas resident, who donated his sperm to a lesbian couple giving birth to a girl in 2009 . They had an agreement that he will not have any financial obligation for the child. The couple separated and one of the women applied for public assistance and the state contacted Marotta. According to Kansas Department for Children and Families, any agreement would not be valid because a physician was not present to perform the insemination. So according to Kansas law, Marotta is the father so he owes a financial obligation to the child. But if you really want to question it, why should he pay if both parties in the contract agreed Marotta would have no financial obligation for the child? Is it really based on ethics or finances?
Many people don’t understand that non-payment of child support is a criminal offence. Child support is a debt and if it is not paid on time, the non-custodial parent may be subjected to a collection agency and/or face jail time. Sometimes a non-custodial parent may lose their job and not be able to keep up with payments but still required to make payments and if they fail to make payments, they may go to jail. In some cases, if a parent is thrown in jail, they may not be able make payments and when they do get out, they may have a criminal record on their file which may prevent them from obtaining certain jobs despite their qualification. So throwing a parent in jail for non-payment of child support may not be the best option.
Every person who brings a child into this world has an obligation to make sure that the child is well taken care of their basic needs. But clearly, there are some problems with child support as the custodial parents does not have to show records on how they spend the money on the child. Sometimes a parent may be thrown in jail if they are not able to complete their monthly payments. It is a major problem in our society today which is a financial burden. Do you think it is time for a child support reform?
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